The article below deals with surviving infidelity and even after finding signs of cheating in a relationship, how you can still make a relationship flourish and boom.
Dealing with Infidelity - How to Keep Your Relationship
Infidelity is a common issue in relationships. After a few years with the same person, it happens a lot that one of the relationship partners is having affair. The survival of the relationship depends on the way you handle this crisis.
Infidelity can cause tears, anger and heartbreak. It can also lead to separation and divorce. However, dealing with infidelity with the result that it strengthens your relationship is also possible. When one partner cheats, it could be for any one of several reasons. The cheating partner might have been feeling neglected or ignored. There might have been a lack of intimacy in the marriage or an excess of alcohol one night. These things to happen and if you know how to deal with infidelity, there is a chance to work things out rather than throw everything away over one mistake.
The first thing to do is to make sure you know whether your spouse is cheating or not. You might have a "hunch" about it but this isn't proof! Just because your partner doesn't seem interested in you any more is not proof of an affair. He or she might be tired, stressed at work or have another reason for their lack of interest in bed. If your partner is cheating, they will be thinking a lot about the affair, which distracts them. They might keep their cellphone turned off or on mute. A mysterious second cellphone can also be a sign. Your partner might be away from home a lot with a variety of excuses or always "working late" but not actually in the office when you phone. You could ask your partner straight out. Depending on how good they are at lying and how they feel can give the game away too. Some people even admit to an affair if they are questioned directly.
If you find out for sure that your partner has been cheating, you will probably want to shout, scream, tell the world, pack their bags and throw them out. How to deal with infidelity does vary from person to person, but knowing it is possible to recover from this blow can help you to work through it. Communication is vital and if you feel unable to talk about it, you might want to consult a marriage counselor. It can take years to rebuild the broken trust so plenty of reassurance is vital, as is changing your routines or trying to work out what was missing in your marriage. If both of you want to get over the episode of infidelity, the chances of doing so are obviously much better.
Once you are getting back on track from infidelity, you need to recover and move on with your relationship. You will obviously want to ensure it doesn't happen again. The best way of dealing with infidelity is to discover the reason behind it. If your partner admits to feeling neglected, try to spend more time together. If the reason was a lack of intimacy in your own relationship, try to work on this together. Don't throw blame at your partner every time something goes wrong. They are probably feeling guilty enough already. Remember all the things that brought you together in the first place and try to recreate some of that magic.
Knowing how to deal with infidelity can make the difference between a renewed, stronger relationship and divorce. Once you have discovered your partner's infidelity it is bound to be difficult but by focusing on saving and improving what you have together, you might be able to put the cheating behind you and move on with your relationship and your lives together.
Dan Weber is a dating and relationship expert. You can find his experiences posted at the dealing with infidelity website. Just follow along as he posts his thoughts about the subject, and learn how to apply them to your life.
The first thing to do is to make sure you know whether your spouse is cheating or not. You might have a "hunch" about it but this isn't proof! Just because your partner doesn't seem interested in you any more is not proof of an affair. He or she might be tired, stressed at work or have another reason for their lack of interest in bed. If your partner is cheating, they will be thinking a lot about the affair, which distracts them. They might keep their cellphone turned off or on mute. A mysterious second cellphone can also be a sign. Your partner might be away from home a lot with a variety of excuses or always "working late" but not actually in the office when you phone. You could ask your partner straight out. Depending on how good they are at lying and how they feel can give the game away too. Some people even admit to an affair if they are questioned directly.
If you find out for sure that your partner has been cheating, you will probably want to shout, scream, tell the world, pack their bags and throw them out. How to deal with infidelity does vary from person to person, but knowing it is possible to recover from this blow can help you to work through it. Communication is vital and if you feel unable to talk about it, you might want to consult a marriage counselor. It can take years to rebuild the broken trust so plenty of reassurance is vital, as is changing your routines or trying to work out what was missing in your marriage. If both of you want to get over the episode of infidelity, the chances of doing so are obviously much better.
Once you are getting back on track from infidelity, you need to recover and move on with your relationship. You will obviously want to ensure it doesn't happen again. The best way of dealing with infidelity is to discover the reason behind it. If your partner admits to feeling neglected, try to spend more time together. If the reason was a lack of intimacy in your own relationship, try to work on this together. Don't throw blame at your partner every time something goes wrong. They are probably feeling guilty enough already. Remember all the things that brought you together in the first place and try to recreate some of that magic.
Knowing how to deal with infidelity can make the difference between a renewed, stronger relationship and divorce. Once you have discovered your partner's infidelity it is bound to be difficult but by focusing on saving and improving what you have together, you might be able to put the cheating behind you and move on with your relationship and your lives together.
Dan Weber is a dating and relationship expert. You can find his experiences posted at the dealing with infidelity website. Just follow along as he posts his thoughts about the subject, and learn how to apply them to your life.
By Dan Weber
Published: 1/29/2008
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